Weekend Wrap Up: Captain America & Slushies!

Hello Lovelies!!

It has been such a crazzzzy weekend but a fun one :)

I worked commencement on Saturday then rushed to make the Mother’s Day banquet with my family. I’m so thankful I have such sweet ladies in my life!

After a yummy lunch and hanging out for awhile, I headed off to Lindy dance class. It was a lot of fun!

Sunday was super busy, running to church with my family. Got to see my little sister and then heading back to my aunt’s house for lunch with the family.

I love how crazy it is when we all get together. Lots of voices, laughs and crazy things nana says.

While I was there Montana texted and asked if I wanted to go to the movies. So I headed out to meet up with him in Camden.

He had been wanting to see Captain America: Civil War and I hadn’t seen it yet.

I was tired so he drove us to the movies. We headed to the Village at Sandhills. Lots of laughing on the way. I didn’t die from his driving haha.

It is so nice to go on dates with a guy to takes care of everything. He bought the tickets, asked what snacks I wanted, and even got me extra butter on the popcorn.

The theatre was really, really small! And I don’t like to feel claustrophobic. You would know the only seat left open were in the middle of the row. I hate having to climb over people..but I did it. We finally sat down and the guy beside me was quite overweight and overflowing onto me. Thankfully, he moved and switched seats with his daughter so he wasn’t touching me anymore…whew!

But then it was tricky. Trying to balance Montana’s drink, my drink, and the popcorn haha. I ended up having to wedge my arm under Montana’s and his poor long legs were sooo cramped.

The movie was really good! I haven’t seen the first of the Captain America movies (judge me…I know!). But I really liked this one! Definitely going to have to watch the others.

After the movie, we headed back to Camden. Montana was really glad I had come to see the movie. I enjoyed being with him. He’s beyond sweet and pays attention to details. He’s always picking on me and it cracks me up because he’s always making me laugh. Apparently, he does it because he likes my smile haha.

When we got back to Camden, he fussed at me for not getting a slushie at the movies. Ummm hello…he remembered slushies are my favorite thing???!! what….who is this guy?

So before I knew it, we were pulling into Sonic for a slushy. I couldn’t believe he’d never been to a Sonic before. I guess they don’t have those in Montana haha.

Sipping on a slushy and watching him inhale a burger, foot long and tater tots was ridiculously fun. I can’t tell you how much I enjoy these little moments. I don’t need fancy dates or expensive trinkets. It’s these little moments of quality time spent together.

He drove me back to my truck and we ended up sitting in his truck just talking for a few more hours. He even called his mom to wish her Happy Mother’s day while I was in the truck (that was a little weird but he wanted to….so who am I to say no haha).

After a few more laughs, he hugged me and we parted ways. I’m looking forward to our next date!

XoXo!

One Powerade Slushy Filled Lemon

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Weekend Wrap Up: A little Baseball & Brisket

Hello Lovelies!

It’s been a crazy weekend and week so far! This past weekend Austin and I went to Columbia for the USC baseball game against the University of Florida. It was a fun ride up there talking about anything and everything. It’s refreshing to be able to just be me with a guy.

We stopped at Maurice’s BBQ for lunch because the boy was craving some brisket. (THANK YOU YELP!! Cause I had no clue where to go for brisket…) I had some bbq chicken and it was sooo good! It literally fell right off the bone.  Lunch was full of giggles, bbq sauce drips and people watching. He’s very observant and it’s fun to watch his facial expressions. Being from Montana, he doesn’t quite understand our southern-isms. So I had fun explaining “Bless Your Heart!” and “Y’all” to him.

It was fun planning the perfect outfit with my friends and Pinterest stalking one! The perfect outfit for a baseball game? I know, I know…guys it’s a girl thing! I found this outfit, and decided to modify it a little bit.

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I decided to wear a black v-cut shirt with white shorts and cute gray sneakers. I wore my rose aviators, silver earrings and a gray & black Carolina hat to tie it all together.

It was the perfect outfit! The sun was out and it was hot! I have to be really careful in the sun because my body overheats quickly. Austin was roasting in his hoodie and jeans haha. We enjoyed a little bit of the game and then they suspended it for a weather delay. Those typically last between 25 – 40mts so I took Austin up to the vista to see downtown.

We stopped into marble slab for some icecream and it was crazy fun! Apparently icecream and beards were not made to go together…it was all over his beard and shirt it was melting so fast. We talked about our families and our mom’s since mothers day is approaching. He hasn’t seen his mom in two years! I couldn’t imagine going that long without seeing mine…

They finally restarted the game and we walked back to the stadium. I enjoyed watching the little boys in front of us. It was their first time attending a USC baseball game! The littlest one was all over the place…he was so excited and bouncing around. The oldest boy was on the edge of his seat asking his dad to explain each play. I really enjoyed watching their dad. He was never phased by their endless questions and overly patient with each one.

Shortly after that, the game was suspended again. As we were walking out of the stadium the bottom fell out and we both got soaked. So I decided I was done haha.

We headed out of Columbia and Austin asked if we could stop at the Harley Davidson tower/dealership. I have always wanted to stop but never have. It was a lot of Harley’s to look at! I may have drooled over a few…until I saw the price tags.

We made it back to Camden where Austin and I had met up earlier. As I was driving to drop him off, he turned and asked if I was hungry. I wasn’t but I told him I was happy to go with him and get something to drink. We ended up at Leo’s which is quite the hole-in-the wall. I honestly have been to Camden a million times before and never seen it.

Austin wanted wings…and can I just say that a 6’5 guy can go through some chicken? He ordered a 20 basket…and ate another 20 basket before we left! It was a ton of fun. We met the owner, Paul, and enjoyed talking with him. Before I knew it, we had been there three hours and they were closing up for the night. Time flies with this guy and it’s fun…really fun. It’s been a long time since I’ve had this much fun.

We headed back to Austin’s truck and ended up sitting there talking for a few more hours. I finally headed home with a touch of sunburn and a smile on my face.

Glad that a job brought this Montana boy to my state.

XoXo!

One Happy Lemon

That’s a Wrap! #Bye2015

Well My Lovelies…it’s over. 2015 is gone never to return again…and it’s with a happy heart that I breathe a sigh of relief. 2015 was a rough year for me…

Many of you have followed along from the beginning and continued to follow along as I’ve journeyed through the crazy waters of being a single twenty-something girl. You cried with me, you cheered me on, and you sent me emails and happy mail when you knew I was struggling.

A lot of what I experienced last year was deeply personal and painful. Some of it I felt I couldn’t share and I love you for understanding that…but sometimes the written word contains healing…so let me catch you up!

Graduate school continued to be an ongoing challenge for me :) You guys were the best! Your constant encouragement helped me tackle and conquer that challenge! (With all A’s and B’s last year I might add!)

You were excited when Matt entered the picture in January :) You sent me great date ideas and Pinterest suggestions. And I finally thought…I might have met my Prince Charming.

In April, a few of you noticed that something was going on, and I didn’t feel that I could share the hurt I was experiencing…

Late on April 4th, Matt and I were at the movies. We’d spent the day at his mom and dad’s having fun with his family and saw the love between his parents. It was the kind of love I’ve always craved for my own future marriage. We’d grilled, played volleyball and soccer, and just had the best day being a part of the family. We caught a movie with a few friends on the way home, and I had turned off my phone. When I turned it back on after the movie,  I immediately became concerned. I had multiple voice-mails from my brother which usually means there’s an emergency.

When the only thing a voicemail says is: Call me back now (in his harsh voice)…it’s bad. My parents had gotten into an argument and my brother stepped in. He and my mom left. They didn’t tell me where they were, I had no idea if my mom was okay. The only thing I knew was that they were safe.

In the middle of the parking lot at the movies I collapsed. I remember Matt picking me up and holding me. I cried….so hard I couldn’t breath. Matt loaded me into the truck and took me home. I remember coming into the house and crying for hours. He never left my side. Finally, I was calmed down enough that he wiped my tears, kissed my head and went home.

The next morning my dad came over to “talk”. It didn’t go well. I was thankful Matt walked in on that discussion and ended it.

It was hard…realizing that your unit was now two units…having to plan holidays around parents…my parents had split up after 31 years of marriage. That is something no one prepares you for. I can’t explain the emotional journey I have been on…

There was a lot of pain, anger, hate, judgement, and hard decisions that I had to make. I’ve always been the mediator in our family, but this was one situation where I couldn’t…I felt isolated, I withdrew, I didn’t care about myself, I didn’t enjoy life, and I pushed Matt away as hard as I could.

There was no fixing the brokenness, no stitching the seams back together. There was only pain.

So much pain.

And more pain. My parents filed for a divorce. It’s a word you hate to hear…even more so when you’re told over the phone.

Then there was Matt. I finally thought that I might have stumbled upon the elusive “one”. A guy that held me while I cried. A guy that opened doors. A guy that brought me flowers. A guy that saw the deepest parts of me and loved them. A guy that brought his A game. A guy that promised he wasn’t going to leave.

And then, on a rainy Sunday night in July he left.

And all of those feelings of abandonment came rushing back in.

I picked up the stones that had come crashing down and rebuilt the wall around my heart on stone at a time.

I cried. I cried a lot. More than I think I’ve ever cried in my whole life. Because as much as I hurt, I knew I had hurt him and I’ve never wanted to hurt anyone in my entire life.

No one knew what to say. Nothing seemed to help. So I became a robot. Simply going through the motions of going to work, going to church, not caring about myself or my appearance.

I no longer wanted to go on the trip to Ireland I had planned with Matt. It only made me think of what wasn’t happening in my life. It was supposed to be an amazing trip. He had planned to propose…but it was the thought of that that made me realize something wasn’t quite right. In my heart, I wasn’t 100% sure I should say yes. I knew I was going through a lot and that my parents situation was impacting me. So I asked Matt for a break to process. A week later, he ended our relationship. It was hard. Every place in town had some memory we had made….

Then came more hurt. There are some things a best friend hates to tell you, but I am very thankful I have one who values a relationship built on honesty. She held my hand, she let me dirty cry on her shoulder, she listened, she gave counsel and she loved me enough to tell me when hurtful rumors about me were spread. Things that hurt to hear and were painful to swallow. How could this man who I loved do this to me I wondered?

And in the quiet of the night, I poured out my heart and my tears to the one who always listens…my Heavenly Father. In the stillness of the night, he whispered that what I thought was love might not be His idea of love.

He took me back to the word..and showed me Boaz. Quietly and gently, he held me while I cried and showed me His definition of a godly man. (btw…we started studying Ruth at church shortly after which was amazing!!)

In the middle of all this pain and parents pulling me in two different directions…siblings taking sides…hurtful words flying back and forth…I felt lost again. How had I been so blind? How had I been so stupid?

But I realized that I hadn’t been blind. For the first time in my life, I had done something for me. I made a decision to end a relationship because I knew it wasn’t right. I had finally paid attention to the warning flags of the Holy Spirit instead of trudging along unhappy. Did it hurt? Yes. Was it the best thing for me? Yes. Did I have doubts? Yes.

I was finally choosing to do things that made me happy instead of trying to please everyone else. What excited me even more was that I could hear God speaking again.

I felt a burden begin to lift. I sought counsel from a godly couple whose opinions I value deeply and we prayed over my parents, my life, my hurt. I prayed for wisdom on how to navigate, I prayed that God would break my family down and build it back up, and I prayed that God would love me despite my anger. They taught me how to set healthy boundaries, how to say no, and how to hold firm.

I can’t say that it’s been an easy road. The end of our relationship took a toll on me and on Matt. I’ve watched the sweet wonderful man I loved turn into someone I no longer recognize. His old lifestyle has drawn him back in and I can’t bear to watch how it will end.

I drew some hard boundary lines with my dad. We didn’t speak for several months last year. I felt hurt by my mom, my sister, and my brother. I endured a lot of hurtful words from my family. I spoke out of anger….a lot.

It was hard to be happy and cheerful….when all I wanted to do was scream and yell.

After being on auto-pilot for so long, I finally began to emerge from my depression and angry state. It always amazes me when God orchestrates our lives. I don’t believe in coincidences…I believe that God gives us incidents that reveal Himself to us…we just aren’t always paying attention :)

I’d been praying that God would bring a collective of young believers into my life. I needed Him and fellowship desperately. I’d been on my knees crying out to Him in desperation and asking Him why this was happening to me. In August, this amazing couple at church opened up their home to the young career kiddos and my life forever changed. Finally, I had the fellowship and Bible study I’d been craving.

As we dug into the word week after week, my anger and bitterness began to melt away. It was if God was saying…”Hey…I’m here. It’s okay”. I asked God to break me, to take my anger away, to take my hate and to take the ugly that had crept into my heart. And He did.

For the first time in my life, I felt like I could breathe. I wasn’t living in fear…I was freely living.

God brought a sweet friend into my life in August. While her mom is sad that LB moved from Chicago to SC…I wish I could hug her and tell her how much I need LB in my life right now :) She has been a constant source of encouragement, a listening ear, and such a blessing in my life.

Over the fall, God restored my relationship with my sister piece by piece. My brother moved in with me and we’ve been building our relationship back piece by piece.

My family is still broken, but God has slowly been doing a work. In November, my parents decided to reconcile and work on their marriage. There’s still a lot of anger and a lot of pain that we as a family need to move through, but I continue to pray that God will move us into a healthy family unit.

So my lovelies, it’s with joy that I share this with you. I am excited to start off 2016 :) It’s going to be a year of growth for me, a year of healing, and a year of adventure!

I hope you tag along :)

XoXo!

One Joyful Lemon

 

 

Thirty Days of Thankful Wrap Up

Hello my Lovelies! This year has definitely been a trial and full of tough stuff, but in the middle of all of the crazy that is my life I realize I have so much to be thankful for! It’s encouraging to look back each day and write something I’m thankful for :) So here are just a few things that I’m especially thankful for!

nov. 1 – Thankful that today is my awesome Uncle B’s birthday! He works so hard with his hands to build beautiful pieces out of wood and selflessly gives them away to others. Thankful for new people at life group! #LT #E

nov. 2 – Thankful for Moe’s Monday with my life group. I’ve been praying God would bring some people my age into my life that would walk this chapter with me and He did! It’s amazing to connect with them and live life together.

nov. 3 – Thankful I have the opportunity to serve in the Junior League! These ladies do so much for our community and I enjoy our time together.

nov. 4 – Thankful for slow days at work :)

nov. 5 – Thankful for a crazy awesome brother who cooks amazing dinners!

nov. 6 – Thankful for the opportunity to share my knowledge of social media and marketing with other local artists! I gave a presentation tonight to local artists and consignees about branding & marketing their work.

nov. 7 – Thankful for fun days at the races! For girl’s Hallmark Movie Nights, for getting homework done on time! #KingstreeTrials

nov. 8 – Thankful for a church that has a heart for missions and the word & thankful for beekeeping class and for learning new things!

nov. 9 – Thankful for Uschi and for the Business of Art series :) This nine week series has helped me take the final step to launching my business. It’s challenged me, grown me and encouraged me beyond words.

nov. 10 – Thankful for classmates who help me understand through texting. It’s challenging being in an online classroom some weeks.

nov. 11 – Thankful for my new friend Laura! I’m glad God shipped you to me all the way from Chicago :) We’re kindred spirits :) Thankful for time with her and late night bonfires with Katie, Mags, Luke, and Eric :) Thankful for a new hair do!

nov. 12 – Thankful for fun events like Merry Marketplace!

nov. 13 – Thankful for friends who carry essential oils in their pocketbooks! Had the worst sore throat today and April came to my rescue with some Thieves.

nov. 14 – Thankful for movie nights with Laura :)

nov. 15 – Thankful for sweet vendors that I get to minister to each year! This year was especially hard…one of my favorite vendors lost her sweet husband 5 weeks ago. We laughed together, cried together and rejoiced that they’ve been a part of Merry Marketplace for 20 years :) Thankful for new people at small group! Thankful for Alabama transplants #MrWidener

“Giving thanks always for all things unto God
and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ…”
~ Ephesians 5:20

nov. 16 – Thankful for Moe’s Monday and Starbucks with my life group :) I love these guys soo much!

nov. 17 – Thankful for the gift of craftiness! Working on pieces for my first craft show this weekend!

nov. 18 – Thankful for sweet children who love Jesus! I am enjoying plugging in at church and helping with the children’s choir.

nov. 19 – Thankful for nights our with my life group! Tonight, we went downtown and had dinner at Wholly Smokin’ then headed over to the Music Industry Ensemble 80’s concert. Too much fun! Afterwards, we took off to Starbucks to spend more time together :) I am loving this fellowship!

nov. 20 – Thankful for parents who help me set up my vendor booth at craft shows!

nov. 21 – Thankful for a great first craft show! For family and friends who came by to support my art. Thankful for the opportunity to babysit 5 out of 6 crazy awesome little boys! #theMurphyBoyz

nov. 22 – Thankful for Sunday afternoon naps & buffalo chicken dip! Thankful for porch swing buddies! #LT

nov. 23 – Thankful for an awesome couple who has poured into my life the past few years! Charles & Uschi also share a birthday today!

nov. 24 – Thankful for friendsgiving with my Junior League girls! Story time with the Murphy Boys and their love for me :) Thankful for Minnemie and her hugs, for sharing my brokeness, for praying over me, and for loving me.

nov. 25 – Thankful for s’mores and bonfires and outdoors movies at the Jackson’s house :) For crazy friends that sit around a bonfire till 2am….

nov. 26 – Thankful for the opportunity to pack Thanksgiving meals for 70 families this morning! Thankful to share a meal with my family! Thankful that God doesn’t let gutting 63 turkeys freak me out..

nov. 27 – Thankful for a Christmas tree shopping and decorating buddy!

nov. 28 – Thankful for rest days and new crochet patterns!

nov. 29 – Thankful for Sunday snuggles on a porch swing and life group! Thankful for digging back into the Word and being challenged. Thankful for a collective of young people who gather to study. Thankful for openness, for shoulders to cry on, for friends to hug and for hands to hold. #abba #family #church

nov. 30 – Thankful for all of the wonderful things God has blessed me with! #family #friends #biblestudy #health #healing

When you walk through a trial, sometimes it’s hard to look up. This morning as I paused and looked up from my broken life, I realized how thankful I am. I was reminded as I read through this list and read the end of Ruth that God is in the business of redeeming broken people :) I am thankful that for all of the pain, there is something to be thankful for. I am thankful I have hope through my Savior and that it’s an everlasting, eternal hope. So Father, thank you for reminding me that your mercies are ever sweet and your arms are always open wide.

For you know the plans you have for me, plans to prosper me, plans to give me hope and a future.

XoXo,

One Thankful Broken Lemon